How can YOU be somebody? - 05/23/26 - Edmonton AB
It's not as simple as a five step plan that you download off some woowoo website. Thoughts that circle my mind constantly about this are in some way “Am I doing enough? Am I doing too much?” “Am I really doing the things I want to be doing?” “How can I be someone?”. And I'd assume that most people have some level or version of these conversations with themselves. I think for most people, especially those who like and want to work on the inner/shadow side of themselves, it's a topic that we take quite seriously. In us somewhere is already that “someone” we’re searching for. We might not have all the tools to uncover them and bring that person into focus at this very moment, but we can at least start the excavation on finding them. "What you are basically, deep, deep down, far, far in, is simply the fabric and structure of existence itself." - Alan Watts.
It's always easier said than done. And I think for myself I've just scratched the surface in the journey of “finding myself” or “self love/discovery” or “finding my truth/power” whatever you want to call it. The biggest thing I've found is that the “YOU” or "Somebody" that we're all trying to find isn't this perfect person who sits on a gold throne. But a person that makes mistakes but uses them as a tool to be better in each situation that would've normally broken them down or taken them that step back. I like to think about the Greek myth of Cysiphus and how he has to roll the boulder up the mountain for eternity. He betrayed the gods over and over. He lied to try and get the things he wanted. The irony is that his endless struggle does build him. He becomes capable, resilient, skilled. But there's a ceiling to what he's capable of doing alone. The piece he's missing is the willingness to say "I can't do this part alone." And that vulnerability, asking for help, is actually its own kind of strength he never develops. For many of us that vulnerability is that piece we throw away or push down but it's the missing tool that allows us to take that step forward into our power. I've written about this before in my blog post “The mountain is you” which is inspired by a song by Chance Pena with the same title. "Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it's having the courage to show up and be seen." - Brené Brown.
Knowing who you are is one thing. But becoming that person fully often requires other people to see parts of you that you can't see yourself. Sometimes the tools we're looking for to build ourselves up or dig down into our unknown are the people around us. For myself a lot of those people are my clients. So many of them have helped me find my power in being a coach, athlete, individual. Having so many different perspectives on life and wisdom from all levels have helped me become more capable in finding the “somebody” within myself. The somebody we're all trying to be is within us now. You just might need some help trying to find them. So don't be scared to ask for help.
"Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes." — Carl Jung
